I found out my partner cheated years ago and I'm so angry

Ask Roe: I chose to stay, and ever since we’ve been more honest. But I’m still angry

I feel unattractive, and when I see my changed, ageing body I feel like I’m lazy and ugly. Photograph: iStock

I feel unattractive, and when I see my changed, ageing body I feel like I’m lazy and ugly. Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe,

A few months ago, I found out my partner was unfaithful many years ago. They were immediately remorseful when confronted, confessed to everything and said the reason they never said anything was because they feared I’d walk away. We talked it through and I decided I wanted to stay, and ever since we’ve been more honest. But I’m still angry. I’m the person who had to suffer the emotional whiplash.

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