I’m a PhD student and I keep fantasising about my supervisor. What should I do?

He’s not even incredibly good-looking, but I just find how his mind works irresistible

“He’s unbelievably brilliant, just mind-blowingly smart, and he’s also charming and funny and is so inspiring.” Photograph: iStock

“He’s unbelievably brilliant, just mind-blowingly smart, and he’s also charming and funny and is so inspiring.” Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe,
I’m a female PhD student entering my second year of research, and I have a problem. I’m completely obsessed with one of my supervisors. He’s unbelievably brilliant, just mind-blowingly smart, and he’s also charming and funny and is so inspiring. He’s not even incredibly good-looking, but I just find everything about how his mind works irresistible, and I keep fantasising about being with him.

I’ve tried to invite out him to a few things, not explicitly as a date, but in a “That concert/exhibition looks really interesting, I’d love to go – do you like that band/that artist?” kind of way. He’s never said yes, but he always acts enthusiastic to see me, and I’m wondering if he’s even allowed to socialise with me?

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