My partner refuses to dress up sexily for me, and it’s ruining our relationship

Ask Roe: Am I asking too much in wishing for titillation as a prelude to sex?

‘After I bought her a basque while on holiday she informed me she would not be wearing it and I didn’t pursue the matter any further.’

‘After I bought her a basque while on holiday she informed me she would not be wearing it and I didn’t pursue the matter any further.’

Dear Roe,

My partner objects to my rubber fetish. I met my partner 14 years ago and from the outset we had a very honest and open relationship. I opened up about my sexual proclivities from the beginning. I like to dress up to feel sexy. I explained this to my partner and reassured her that I had no interest in BDSM. After I bought her a basque while on holiday she informed me she would not be wearing it and I didn’t pursue the matter any further.

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