‘I think my friend’s in an abusive relationship and I don’t know how to help her’
Ask Roe: ‘How I can help without interfering or making things worse’

Offering your friend a few codewords so she can signal to you that there’s an emergency could also be a lifesaver later on.
Dear Roe,
My best friend has been experiencing marital difficulties over the past couple of years and I am worried that she is now in an emotionally abusive situation which she is too scared to get out of.