‘The Pill is making me sick, but my boyfriend won’t wear condoms’

Some women’s bodies are incompatible with hormonal birth control. You may be one of them

The Pill is clearly not working for you right now. But your boyfriend says condoms don’t work for him. Stalemate, right? Well, no. Photograph: iStock Photo

The Pill is clearly not working for you right now. But your boyfriend says condoms don’t work for him. Stalemate, right? Well, no. Photograph: iStock Photo

Dear Roe,

I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years. At the start of our relationship we used condoms, and a little over year ago I went on the Pill, but it’s been a disaster. I’ve tried two different versions and each one has had major side effects. I felt sick for months, my sex drive has plummeted, I’ve had crazily long periods, unpredictable spotting, and I’ve put on weight. My confidence has been affected by the weight and I’m generally feeling crap in my body, which means I want to have sex even less. I want to stop completely but my boyfriend says it’s really hard to enjoy sex with a condom after going so long without using them. He asked to me try another type of Pill, as a compromise. But I’m dreading going through the process of trying another one and finding out if there are side effects. Is it normal to have to try so many different types of the Pill and should I keep trying?

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