My partner wants to open up our relationship

Dear Roe: I don’t think I’m emotionally ready for us to start sleeping with other people

Right now, all of your options are open, and what you need to do is not act on any of them, but gather more information.

Right now, all of your options are open, and what you need to do is not act on any of them, but gather more information.

Dear Roe,

I’ve been with my partner for almost three years now (female, female relationship). We rarely have sex anymore, with my partner not feeling sexually attracted to having sex in our relationship anymore. She doesn’t want our relationship to end, so is suggesting sleeping with people outside of our couple to try spark her sexual interest again. I don’t think I’m emotionally ready for that. Do you have any advice?

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