My partner acts quiet, awkward and disinterested in social situations

Ask Roe: He comes across as standoffish, which really hurts my feelings

‘At events, he will say nothing or, to my surprise, act socially awkward and unable to initiate any conversation.’ Photograph: iStock

‘At events, he will say nothing or, to my surprise, act socially awkward and unable to initiate any conversation.’ Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe,

I am a 39-year-old Irish woman and have been dating a guy for five years. We live together and moved to a new country two years ago.  He comes from a European country that values modesty, quietness and the idea that you don’t speak unless you have something meaningful to contribute. At first I found this intriguing and respectful – us Irish often talk in circles and can interrupt each other.

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