I'm up for sex the whole time, but my husband sees it as not putting in any effort

Ask Roe: I am up for sex the whole time, but he sees this as not putting in any effort

The kids are starting to cotton on to our problems. Photograph: iStock

The kids are starting to cotton on to our problems. Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe,

My husband of 12 years and I are having some sexual problems of late – well, forever, actually. We’ve serious communication issues in the bedroom and we seem to like very different things. Neither of us had much experience with the opposite sex before we got together, and I think expectations are massively skewed on both our parts. I am up for sex the whole time, but he sees this as not putting in any effort. I do like attention in bed, but am more than willing to return it (I know the semantics are a bit selfish there).

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