‘I’m married but tempted to have a glass of wine with an old flame’

Advice: The crucial decision about your marriage is whether it’s worth sticking with

‘Some days, it is very clear to me that I won’t let the old flame burn again, but some days I’m very close to accept his invitation for a glass of wine at his’

‘Some days, it is very clear to me that I won’t let the old flame burn again, but some days I’m very close to accept his invitation for a glass of wine at his’

I’ve been married for nearly 16 years. During this time, I have had affairs. One of them was particularly long-term and passionate, and we were seeing each other for nearly three years.

He is handsome, bright and amazing in bed. Tellingly, he is a womaniser. I knew about it and at no moment had I any presumptions I was the only woman in his life and I was okay with this. As time passed, we started to see each other more often. We had a no-strings agreement, so when he said during sex that he loved me I thought it was just the heat of the moment. But then he started to say this more and texting me in the middle of the night. At first, I didn’t know what to think of it, but then I started seeing him for what he is, a person with feelings, not just the party guy. From this on, it was clear he had feelings for me, and I realised he could be a great person to be around. It was about the time I started falling for him too.

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