‘Am I making a mistake planning a future with someone who wants children?’

Tell Me About It: ‘I always said I didn’t want a baby and that remains true now’

‘Right now he’s saying he’ll forget about it, but I’m not sure that he will.’ Photograph: iStock

‘Right now he’s saying he’ll forget about it, but I’m not sure that he will.’ Photograph: iStock

Question: I’m very confused at the moment and hope you can help. I broke up with my boyfriend last year, having been together for five years. Our relationship was brilliant in every respect except one, he wanted us to start a family and I didn’t.

This is not a timing thing for me, I have no desire to be pregnant or have a baby, now or ever. He was aware of this from the beginning of our relationship and there didn’t seem to be any issue. However, after our joint 30th more than a year ago, he started looking for commitment on this and on our future. He seemed to think it was normal for me in my 20s not to want children, but that I’d change my mind once into my 30s. This was a deal-breaker for me and we parted ways, but still kept in touch.

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