Tiger Woods’s lover: ‘I’m not a prostitute. I’m a very smart girl, and that’s why I negotiated $8m’

Rachel Uchitel’s life has been ruled by an NDA for a decade. Now she’s ready to rip it up

Rachel Uchitel is sitting at a table in her apartment in New York's Upper East Side, alternately stoic and tearful, surrounded by hundreds of pages of legal documents. For more than a decade these have been familiar company: the wallpaper of a room she can't seem to leave.

In 2009, days after the dramatic revelation of her affair with the golfer Tiger Woods, who was then married, Uchitel signed a nondisclosure agreement more than 30 pages long, prohibiting her from talking about Woods with anyone. She was represented by the famed Hollywood lawyer Gloria Allred.

In return for her silence, under pressure to protect a powerful man's reputation and brand, Rachel Uchitel got $5m and a promise of $1m annually for three years to follow

In return for her silence, under pressure to protect a powerful man’s reputation and brand, she got $5 million – about €4.25 million – and a promise of $1 million annually for three years to follow. “His lawyers are saying, ‘We want all your text messages and here’s the price,’” she says, “and you’re, like, ‘Screw you,’ and you move into dealmaker mode – and all of a sudden it’s the rest of your life.”

Now, at 46, Uchitel – tired of not being able to defend herself against continued insinuations from tabloids and gossip websites – is ready to blow it all up. “I’ve had it with NDAs,” she says.


In 2019 she agreed to be interviewed about her relationship with Woods for an HBO documentary, Tiger. "I wanted for once to be the one to narrate my story," she says. She then filed successfully for bankruptcy, having spent the $2 million or so she says she netted from the agreement. One of Woods's lawyers, Michael Holtz, is challenging her protection from creditors, so he can bring a claim against her for millions of dollars on his client's behalf for violating it, he told her. (Holtz did not respond to a detailed email seeking comment, nor did Woods's agent, Mark Steinberg.)

Uchitel says she can only find work related to her tarnished reputation, such as a spokeswoman gig for Seeking Arrangement, the online “sugar dating” service, which she is now suing for nonpayment of $60,000 and damages. According to her complaint, the company, which made headlines amid a US justice department investigation of the Florida congressman Matt Gaetz, said it would continue to pay her only if she signed a contract with a restrictive NDA, on top of a boilerplate confidentiality agreement she had already signed. (Seeking Arrangement denies any wrongdoing and is suing her too.)

Uchitel has come to believe that such documents are part of “a culture of extreme bullying”. She has been watching a public softening toward figures like Monica Lewinsky, Britney Spears and Meghan Markle and wondering if she can find similar empathy. Or at least some consideration that her name got pulped by a machine run by well-paid lawyers.

Glamour and loss

Uchitel was perhaps predetermined for life in the gossip pages. In the 1960s and 1970s her paternal grandfather, Maurice Uchitel, owned American celebrity hangouts including El Morocco, a Manhattan nightclub. She was born in Anchorage, Alaska, to Bob and Susan Uchitel, who had made a small fortune in the state’s cable industry.

But her parents divorced, sending her to Cedu, a California boarding school with ties to the Synanon cult. (It closed in 2005.) Bob Uchitel died of a cocaine overdose in 1990, when Rachel was 15. She graduated from the University of New Hampshire and was working as a news producer at Bloomberg Television when her fiance, James Andrew O'Grady, was killed in the terrorist attack on the south tower of the World Trade Center on September 11th, 2001. A picture of Uchitel holding his photo was published in newspapers around the world.

Uchitel began therapy for post-traumatic stress disorder, and in 2004 she married a high-school friend, Steven Ehrenkranz. The marriage lasted about a year, after which she hopped into a car with her dogs and drove west to Las Vegas. There she reconnected with an old friend, Jason Strauss, who was opening an outpost of Tao, a popular New York club, and hired her as the director of VIP operations. Uchitel displayed an immediate zest for the job: taking the high-wattage contacts accumulating in her phone to New York, Miami, Los Angeles, the Hamptons; connecting clubs with the elite clientele who oxygenate nightlife.

"To me the word 'hostess' does not describe what she did," says Ron Berkowitz, the president of Berk Communications, who represented the Tao Group at the time. "She was the liaison between the club and big money. People trusted her, and people called her to get into these clubs. She was the queen of it. She was the best. She had the Rolodex; she knew how to negotiate. And she also was very sweet. But then she got caught up in something that was not good for her business."

'I knew Tiger to be cheating on his wife from the first time I met him, well before we got together.' Woods would fly her around the world to tournaments and events, and, she says, told her he would invest in a restaurant she dreamed of opening

Uchitel and Woods met in 2008 through a mutual friend, the baseball player Derek Jeter, and began their relationship a year later. “I knew him to be cheating on his wife from the first time I met him, well before we got together,” she says. But Uchitel believed she had special status. Woods would fly her around the world to tournaments and events, and, she says, told her he would invest in a restaurant she dreamed of opening.

As tabloids began looking into rumours of Woods's infidelities, Uchitel was in frequent communication with his handlers, even helping with crisis management. But the representatives stopped returning her calls after their star client's car collision with a fire hydrant near his home in Florida following a dispute on Thanksgiving night with Elin Nordegren, then his wife.

As paparazzi swarmed outside Uchitel’s apartment in New York, she realized she needed a lawyer of her own. She contacted three she had seen on Nancy Grace, a favourite show, including Allred, who called her the next morning and told her to get on a plane to Los Angeles.

Uchitel didn't want to sell her story. She had been denying to reporters that she was involved with Woods and wanted them to leave her alone. Then other women began coming forward to tell of sexual relationships with Woods. "By now," Uchitel says, "I was pissed. And I was tired of lying for him as he and his lawyer and agent left me out to dry." She was being called a tramp, a mistress, a home wrecker and a "hooker" (as Joy Behar put it on the American daytime TV show The View, later apologising). "This is someone who everyone wants to be a hero," Uchitel says of Woods, "and anyone who crosses that narrative will be shamed."

Uchitel decided to arrange a news conference, one of Allred’s favoured tactics. Within minutes of its being announced, one of Allred’s partners heard from Woods’s representatives. They offered her $200,000 to cancel, and to seize her phone and emails, Uchitel says.

Woods then called, instructing her to “get what you can”. It was their last conversation. “Tell them $10 million,” Uchitel told her lawyers. Both sides worked through the night. (Allred’s firm, Allred, Maroko & Goldberg, wanted a 40 per cent cut of Uchitel’s payout; she talked them down to 20 per cent.) Sometime after 3am, Uchitel was handed papers to sign. “I’m not an idiot, I’m not a hooker, I’m not a prostitute,” she says. “I was and am a very smart girl, and that’s why I negotiated $8 million, because I knew it was going to affect my life.” But $8 million was not what she got. For one, there were taxes and Allred’s fees to pay – about $1 million for five days’ work – netting Uchitel about $2 million of the original $5 million, she says. Then, when it came for the first additional $1 million payment, Woods’s team baulked.

‘The scarlet letter’

Substantially longer than most NDAs, the document prohibited Uchitel from discussing “directly or indirectly, verbally or otherwise”, Woods’s “lifestyle, proclivities, customs, private conduct, fitness, habits, sexual matters, familial matters”, among other topics, with anyone, “including but not limited to, family members, relatives, acquaintances, friends, associates, co-workers, journalists”. It also forbid her to say she had signed an NDA.

Days later, Uchitel also signed a retainer granting the lawyers 10 per cent to 20 per cent of any paid media appearances they helped to negotiate. This contributed to Uchitel believing that she could abide by the NDA while doing narrowly focused interviews. The press was calling her names, and she felt it important to respond.

“I was a person before him, and I am a person after him,” Uchitel says of Woods. “I wanted to answer, ‘Who is Rachel Uchitel?’”

Playboy offered her $250,000 to pose; Uchitel said no after hearing she would have to sit on a live tiger. She also said no to Michael Cohen, dispatched by Donald Trump to discuss appearing on The Celebrity Apprentice. OK magazine promised not to ask her about Woods, which seemed okay. And it paid her $250,000. (The OK reporter did not ask her about Woods, but the magazine ran her photograph on the cover, calling her "Tiger Woods' Rachel Uchitel".)

Then came Dr Drew Pinsky, of the reality-TV show Celebrity Rehab, who told her he thought she had a compulsion for male attention, brought on by the losses of her father and her fiance, and promised not to mention Woods if she'd come on the show, for $400,000. "I was mourning a relationship," Uchitel says, and Pinsky "got me".

But after the production began, when Allred first learned about it, she predicted there would be trouble, and she was right. Woods’s lawyers called Uchitel into arbitration, a confidential process through which parties can resolve disputes out of court. They wanted their $5 million back. And forget about that additional $3 million.

Allred instead urged mediation, warning that an arbitrator could potentially force Uchitel to repay the money she had already received, in addition to damages. Mediation – also secret – would mean she was willing to compromise on a solution.

This didn’t sit well with Uchitel, who says she spoke to the press only to distinguish herself from some of Woods’s other lovers, such as those in pornographic films, and she never mentioned him or their relationship. She didn’t think she should be giving up any money. “If I’m going to walk around with the scarlet letter, then they’re going to have to pay me $8 million, not $5 million,” she told her lawyers.

But mediation, they said, was her best hope to hold on to the $5 million. To find a resolution with Woods, they urged her during a two-day hearing in April 2011 to give up the additional $3 million. Then, another indignity: as Allred’s associates presented Uchitel with the signature pages of this new deal, they flagged a provision stating that Woods agreed to pay their firm $600,000: their cut of the $3 million Uchitel was giving up. This made no sense to Uchitel, their client; why would she owe them 20 per cent of money they were pressuring her to give up? But she still signed, worrying that getting another lawyer’s opinion would violate her NDA.

'It has nothing to do with not getting the rest of the payout. It's that I feel, ultimately, like I was bullied,' Uchitel wrote to her lawyers in an email. 'I feel duped'

Her regret was immediate. "It has nothing to do with not getting the rest of the payout. It's that I feel, ultimately, like I was bullied," she wrote to her lawyers in an email. "I feel duped." Frustrated by what she saw as Allred's firm's mishandling of her case, Uchitel retained Michael Piuze, a Los Angeles lawyer who had won a $28 billion verdict from Philip Morris, the tobacco company. In 2014, on her behalf, he won an award of $600,000 from Allred, Maroko & Goldberg in an arbitration proceeding, proving breach of contract and breach of fiduciary duty related to the $600,000 payment from Woods to Allred's firm.

During the proceedings, it emerged that Allred and her associates represented between five and 10 other women besides Uchitel in matters involving Woods. Allred’s firm was negotiating settlements so frequently with one of Woods’s lawyers that the lawyers “developed a written protocol”, according to Piuze’s closing argument.

(Soon after the arbitrator issued his final decision, the parties agreed to vacate it – essentially a nullification – choosing instead to enter a settlement agreement, with Allred’s firm still forking over the $600,000 to Uchitel, plus $56,000 in other fees.)

“At every turn I was up against these big-shot lawyers, and I really felt vindicated,” Uchitel says. She treasures an email she received from Piuze when the whole business was over. “I was impressed by your smarts, street and otherwise,” he wrote. “You are young and talented. Not platitudes. Time to move on to the next chapter.”

He died last year. In matters related to the NDA, Uchitel is currently on her own.

‘Time to take the reins’

After her breakup with Woods, Uchitel tried to move on. She met Matt Hahn, a businessman, in late 2010. They married in Las Vegas and had a daughter, Wyatt, in 2012. Since they divorced, in 2014, she has struggled to find romantic partners who will overlook her reputation as "Tiger Woods's mistress".

With bills mounting, family estranged and a perpetual feeling of being denigrated by the press, “I felt the world closing in on me,” she says. In early 2020 she checked herself into a residential mental-healthcare facility. Upon arriving, she began panicking about the potential impact on her custody rights and worried that discussing her silence and shame might violate the NDA. After 10 days she left, even more depressed.

When the pandemic forced New York into shutdown and the state’s governor announced a moratorium on evictions, Uchitel stopped paying rent, then moved out before her lease was up – drawing ire from her guarantor (a mother she knew from her daughter’s previous school) and her landlord.

Before the pandemic she was approached by the producers of Tiger – not with money but with an opportunity for credibility. “Ten years later, people were still talking about me as a player in a story I had never talked about,” Uchitel says. “I felt like it was time to take the reins.”

After all this time, she reasoned, she couldn’t harm his reputation or earnings. Woods is currently tied for 12th with the tennis player Naomi Osaka on the Forbes list of highest-paid athletes; the magazine reported that he earned $60 million, or more than €50 million, from May 2020 to May 2021. In 2019 he reclaimed the title of Masters champion. (He had another car crash this spring and is recovering from injuries.)

Uchitel did the interview for the documentary Tiger, speaking about Woods publicly for the first time, she says; she then filed for Chapter 7 bankruptcy and was granted protection from creditors early this year. After the documentary came out, in January, she heard from Holtz, Uchitel’s main adversary in managing the NDA. “If you get a job I’ll come after your wages. If you get married I’ll go after your joint bank account. I will come after you for the rest of your life,” she says he told her. Soon she got notice of Holtz’s intention to continue to pursue damages against her, despite her bankruptcy protection.

In an email sent in April to Holtz and Woods, Uchitel proposed a $275,000 annual stipend from Team Tiger that would allow her to live within about 50km of her ex-husband (per her custody agreement) while forgoing the only work she says she can get, which requires her to interact with the press.

'This is the same feeling I always have,' Uchitel said after one court hearing. 'It's a bunch of lawyers and judges and men who don't let me talk'

Otherwise she could, she wrote, "kill myself, not sure why you are trying to make someone do that? You are trying to make my life unlivable." Or, "You can leave me alone completely, with a notice that you will, so I will back off too." Or, she wrote, "I can sing like a canary," adding an expletive. Holtz did not reply. But he did show up at the virtual bankruptcy hearing in May, himself represented by Jerrold L Bregman, known for his commentary on the bankruptcy of Gawker Media after its legal battle with Hulk Hogan. He argued that Holtz wasn't notified of Uchitel's bankruptcy filings in a timely fashion.

“This is Rachel Uchitel, representing myself,” said Uchitel, who tried to explain that she repeatedly told a lawyer who prepared her bankruptcy filing to add Holtz, as the representative of Woods and his company, to the papers and to notify him of her intent.

The judge cut her off and granted Holtz’s motion to move forward. “This is the same feeling I always have,” she said afterwards. “It’s a bunch of lawyers and judges and men who don’t let me talk.” In the past weeks, Uchitel has requested twice that Bregman agree to delay the proceedings, explaining that she cannot “just pick someone out of the phone book” to go up against another “lawyer for a ‘party who cannot be named’.” He said no. A hearing was scheduled. Late last week, Maureen Bass, a partner with the New York law firm Abrams Fensterman, agreed to represent Uchitel in the bankruptcy matter, pro bono.

‘Some weird Greek tragedy’

Earlier this year Uchitel asked Jeffrey Lichtman, the criminal-defence lawyer whose clients have included Joáquin Guzmán, the drug trafficker known as El Chapo, for help. He agreed to call Holtz on her behalf. "I felt badly for her," Lichtman says. "She had a consensual relationship with Woods, no more her fault than his, but after it was over he was able to move on with his golf career while she was stuck with the stigma of being the other woman." But he understands Holtz's position too. "If she didn't want to sign the agreement, she wasn't required to do so."

One day this spring, Uchitel received an offer from an influencer company, telling her it could help her make between $5,000 and $30,000 a day on OnlyFans, a site where content creators often sell suggestive pictures of themselves. “So I can work in a Starbucks,” she says, “and keep my dignity”, or show her body, the one thing she fully owns, for much more. “People have called me these names for years. What’s the shame in stripping?” she says, adding, “I’ll literally be working and making money to pay back Tiger for the rest of my life. How’s that for some weird Greek tragedy?”

Uchitel finds herself in a cycle of making one fraught decision to deal with the one before it. 'I feel there is a bomb ticking and it's all coming to an end,' she says

She declined the offer but recently accepted $10,000 from a German production company to be interviewed as she visited the September 11th memorial in Lower Manhattan, her first time at the museum. The producers asked her repeatedly to watch a video of her younger self, anguished at Bellevue Hospital, where she went to look for O’Grady.

“It’s hard to describe how I felt in my body” doing so, Uchitel says. But she needed $10,000 to pay the lawyer who would help her sue Seeking Arrangement. These are the cycles she finds herself in, making one fraught decision to deal with the one before it. “I feel there is a bomb ticking and it’s all coming to an end,” Uchitel says in her dining room, placing a plate of scrambled eggs for the dog, Mishka, at her feet.

As the summer has worn on, she has become increasingly worried about the institutional silencing of women, like the anonymous one covered in a recent BuzzFeed article about the proliferation of NDAs handed out to those who engage in casual hookups with even B-list celebs.

Uchitel reads everything she can about the culture she is now an elder stateswoman of: the culture of celebrity, sex and the media. “It’s actually terrifying when I think about it,” she says, her voice catching. “I know what they’re getting themselves into. But they don’t.” – New York Times