How to talk to a parent about a will: First, check your motivation

Your goal should be to support your parents in their wishes. It is their money, not yours

If they want to leave the whole kit and caboodle to a goat sanctuary, that’s their right

If they want to leave the whole kit and caboodle to a goat sanctuary, that’s their right

What’s so hard about discussing a will?
Death and money are taboo topics in many cultures. With fewer than three in 10 Irish people having a will, we baulk at it too. Surprise tax bills, unintended beneficiaries and family disputes are all too common after a death, but if you want to talk to a parent about their plans, tread carefully.

Can I ask what I can expect to inherit?
Just no. “I always point out to parents and children that you have no automatic entitlement to a share in your parents’ estate. You just don’t,” says solicitor Bernadette Parte. Parents’ money or assets are theirs alone. If they want to leave the whole kit and caboodle to a goat sanctuary, that’s their right.

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