Should I wait for a man who isn’t ready for a relationship?

‘You seem to have become attached to this emotionally unattainable man quite quickly’

Keep going. Leave this man behind, and take another step towards your future. File Photograph: Getty Images

Keep going. Leave this man behind, and take another step towards your future. File Photograph: Getty Images

Dear Roe,

I’ve done my emotional work through therapy for years about my abusive marriage, and came to a peaceful place with my ex-husband. I’ve been dating for a year, most recently a month-long fling that started casual and was moving toward a relationship when my date acknowledged that he was not ready for a “real relationship” and he has “definitely come as close to ever deciding on wanting a relationship” with me. I suspect he is not over his recent divorce and committing is scary for him.

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