I keep making my wife cry and I don’t know why, or how to help

It’s been a long two years. Take some time to reconnect, and recommit to supporting each other

‘This isn’t your fault, it’s just something to be mindful of when you open a conversation with your wife, which you absolutely should do.’ File photograph: Getty

‘This isn’t your fault, it’s just something to be mindful of when you open a conversation with your wife, which you absolutely should do.’ File photograph: Getty

Dear Roe,

I have been married to my wife for three years, and Covid has been a strain. We’re both overworked, finances have been tough, and we have gone from regularly seeing our family and friends to not seeing them much (this is slowly increasing, but my wife’s parents in particular aren’t local and have a lot of Covid anxiety.) A pattern we’re repeatedly falling into is that my wife will say something casually (like asking me to watch a television show or to look at something) and if I don’t respond immediately or as enthusiastically she likes, she gets incredibly upset. She’s started crying in some cases. I genuinely don’t know what I’m doing wrong, if she’s just stressed overall so I shouldn’t take it personally, or what I’m meant to do when I can’t predict her emotions. Any advice?

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