‘My partner is a good person but there is little laughter, excitement or enthusiasm’

Ask Roe: 'He sucks the joy out of everything for me. What can I do?'

If things stayed exactly how are they are, how much longer could you stay? Photograph: Getty Images

If things stayed exactly how are they are, how much longer could you stay? Photograph: Getty Images

Dear Roe,

I have two young children with my partner. He is a good person but I feel disconnected to him and there is little laughter, more just talk with one another about logistics and the running of the home. He seems to have no curiosity about me as a person and I feel I always have to instigate everything. He also tends to underplay everything so he disapproves about getting excited about stuff. I’m naturally happy but the lack of enthusiasm for even the simplest things sucks the joy out of everything for me. I have tried talking to him but he says that’s just who he is. What can I do?

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