Can I have sex? A frank guide to intimacy during the coronavirus outbreak

What are the risks associated with intimacy in the time of Covid-19? Three experts weigh in

What are the risks associated with intimacy in the time of coronavirus?  Photograph: Peter Cade / Getty Images

What are the risks associated with intimacy in the time of coronavirus? Photograph: Peter Cade / Getty Images

 

It’s nearly impossible to practice “social distancing” with the partners with whom we share homes – and beds. But what are the risks associated with intimacy in the time of coronavirus, also known as Covid-19? Three experts weigh in.

Is Covid-19 sexually transmissible?

Dr Jessica Justman We’re not seeing patterns that indicate sexual transmission. It’s primarily spread through respiratory droplets. And touching contaminated surfaces is thought to be the secondary mode of transmission.

Dr Carlos Rodríguez-Díaz There is no evidence that the Covid-19 can be transmitted via either vaginal or anal intercourse. However, kissing is a very common practice during sexual intercourse, and the virus can be transmitted via saliva. Therefore, the virus can be transmitted by kissing. There is also evidence of oral-fecal transmission of the Covid-19 and that implies that analingus may represent a risk for infection.

So is it okay to have sex?

Justman If you or your partner is a Covid-19 case, the advice is to steer clear of each other as much as possible. In fact, the New York City department of health has guidelines on this. If you’re a possible or confirmed case you should isolate yourself, ideally in a private residence until seven days after the illness began. You need to have had no fever for 72 hours, without using ibuprofen or anything that would mask your fever, and your respiratory symptoms should be improving.

Dr Julia Marcus But for people who don’t have symptoms and don’t have any recent likely exposure and have been staying close to home, I think that, if it’s within your own household, it’s a different story. If you live with a regular sexual partner and you don’t have any symptoms, or likely exposure, sex might actually be a really great way to have fun, stay connected, and relieve anxiety during this potentially stressful time.

What about new partners?

Marcus The recommendation right now is that we try to stay home as much as we can and really only interact with people for things that are essential, like groceries. And even when we do that, try to keep some physical distance of about 2m from other people. That would definitely make sex a challenge.

Rodríguez-Díaz Sexual intercourse may decrease during the next few weeks, but other forms of expressing eroticism, such as sexting, video-calls, reading erotica, and masturbation will continue to be options.

How can someone keep sex toys clean?

Rodríguez-Díaz Just use soap and water.

We don’t know how long this pandemic will last. What do you say to someone who’s single now and doesn’t want to wait months before they can be intimate with someone?

Rodríguez-Díaz If you’re concerned about practicing social distancing for too long, make sure that you and the people you know practice social distancing now. The sooner we do it, the sooner we’ll see a decline in new infections, and the sooner we will be able to change our practice of socialising. Rather than focusing on the future, we need to focus on the present.

Use these couple of weeks to channel your energy, explore yourself, maybe think about what it is that you’re looking for. And you can do that by yourself. It can be a great opportunity to explore other ways of engaging with new sexual partners that you can meet online by sexting or using video calls. – Guardian

  • Dr Jessica Justman is a professor and attending physician in the Division of Infectious Diseases at the Columbia University Irving Medical Centre
  • Dr Carlos E Rodríguez-Díaz is a professor at George Washington University’s Milken Institute School of Public Health
  • Dr Julia Marcus is an infectious disease epidemiologist and professor in the Department of Population Medicine at Harvard Medical School
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