‘A pointed finger is a victim’s logo – it’s a synonym for surrender’

Coping: Nobel prize winner Joseph Brodsky has some advice for avoiding self-pity

‘It can be easy to construct a narrative within our lives that leads us to focus on our own suffering.’

‘It can be easy to construct a narrative within our lives that leads us to focus on our own suffering.’

Self-pity is a form of self-victimisation. It can be easy to construct a narrative within our lives that leads us to focus on our own suffering. We’re ostracised or unappreciated by family.

We can’t seem to make friends even when we try, or don’t succeed at endeavours that we’ve put real work into. The pain can be incredibly acute, and is often completely justified, but considering oneself a victim always makes things worse.

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