‘I’m struggling to connect with someone else after my girlfriend left me’

Tell Me About It: ‘I have spoken to a therapist, but I don’t seem to be able to move on’

‘I am at a loss at what to do and at the same time anxious for the future as I would love to have my own family.’ Photograph: iStock

‘I am at a loss at what to do and at the same time anxious for the future as I would love to have my own family.’ Photograph: iStock

Question: I am a man in my mid-40s and still struggling to connect with any women I meet after my girlfriend left me over four years ago. I can’t seem to be able to move beyond a certain depth and it is mainly driven by fear, I suspect.

I recently heard that my ex is now engaged and it did shake me, but also confirmed to me definitively that there is no chance of us getting together again. Pathetically, perhaps, I still harboured hope. She lives in the UK and I moved back to Ireland after the break-up.

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