Joseph Tuohy: his story echoes those of other emigrants who went to England and lost their way

Joseph Tuohy, who died in July, never got over being separated from his mother as a boy

The love that dare not speak its name.

She knew there was someone to be told. Someone no one else knew about. Another man

British prime minister Boris Johnson ‘is a smirking dilettante who fancies himself an intellectual’. File photograph: Getty

Jennifer O’Connell: Unfortunately, sometimes terrifyingly, we often get leaders we deserve

 The closed Shamrock bar on the Killarney road in Newcastle West, Limerick. Photograph Liam Burke/Press 22

Ireland has 1,500 fewer pubs than in 2006. Nowhere has seen a steeper decline than Limerick

 Climate change activist Greta Thunberg addresses the media during a news conference in Plymouth, England. Thunberg has crossed the Atlantic on a zero-emissions sailboat to attend a conference on global warming. Photograph: Kirsty Wigglesworth/AP Photo

How can a 16-year-old girl in plaits, dedicated to trying to save the planet, inspire such incandescent rage?

‘I get great value out of it,’ says Nell O’Neill (right) and Anne Carroll. Photograph: Jennifer O’Connell

Ireland’s free travel scheme is ‘an extraordinary social programme’, believe older users of bus and rail services

Facebook. File photograph: Loic Venance/AFP/Getty

One described witnessing Isis executions, child exploitation and animal torture

Dún Laoghaire rooftop view

It’s our oldest commuter town, a major port – and a planning mess. Poor little rich suburb

If you follow somebody because they seem just like you, I can see how it might be irritating when they start flogging frozen chips for cash. But you could just hit mute

Who is more inane, the influencer posting about their #blessed life, or the outraged follower?

Joanne Smith, home care provider with Home Instead Senior Care Waterford: ‘There will always be a few you’ll never forget.’ Photograph: Patrick Browne

As one of the fastest growing occupations in Ireland, there are some 44,000 people working in the senior care industry

Residents at Charleville Sheltered Housing. Photograph:  Michael MacSweeney/Provision

‘We just do whatever it is to keep them in their own home as long as possible’

Loveliness test: Cork Rose Stephanie McCarthy and Galway Rose Órla McDaid. Photograph: Andres Poveda

What Roses will least likely say, and everything else you need to know about the festival

We’ve been talking about the effects of second-hand smoking for nearly half a century. It’s time we started a conversation about second-hand drinking. Photograph: iStock

If you’ve been groped by a drunken stranger in a bar, you’ve experienced second-hand drinking

Ovarian freezing to gene editing: Babies could be made very differently in 21st century

Rose of Tralee: the joy is that no hint of modernity is allowed. Photograph: Domnick Walsh

Talent and ambition are tolerated, but notions are a no-no. Basically, it’s Ireland selecting its fantasy daughter-in-law.

Dublin Airport: Sean Mackessy, airfield electrical supervisor. Photograph: Dara Mac Dónaill

What happens to all the swag? Does Brexit spell trouble? Jennifer O’Connell finds out

And baby came too: Mini festival goer at last year’s Electric Picnic. Photograph: Dave Meehan

Jennifer O'Connell: If you thought I was fun before I had kids, the toddler-toting festival-goers brag, see me now!

I have fleeting moments where I feel wise or calm or in control but, most of the time, I’m winging it. Photograph: iStock

Instead of being a life-stage, ‘adulthood’ has become a fraught, anxious goal for many of us

Fonsie Mealy with the early doll’s house (which sold for €48,000) and Tara’s Palace treasurer Jenny Johnston. Photograph: Nick Bradshaw

Tiger heads and brown furniture: a day at the Kilkenny auction yields lots of stories

‘Is it always this crowded? It’s a disgrace,’ says Pink Jumper, making a show of rummaging in her bag, while the ticket inspector waits. ‘You’d really want to put an extra carriage on.’

The Philosopher says he’s going outside. This is surprising because the train is moving

Glitz and glam: hopefuls attend Ladies Day at the Galway Races. Photograph: Brian Lawless/PA Wire

‘You’ve so many fashionable and talented people in one place ... It’s great for inspiration’

As a parent, it is hard not to wonder exactly what you’re doing when you put a smartphone into your child’s hands for the first time. Photograph: iStock

Children viewing endless, sexually explicit, violent material shouldn’t be inevitable

Two-year old looking out from the train’s window.

If our starting point is that parents who use childcare are neglectful, we’re setting a low bar for the standards we expect

Fonsie Mealy and Tara’s Palace treasurer Jenny Johnston with the doll’s house that was  sold by the children’s charity for €48,000. Photograph: Nick Bradshaw

The 1810 mahogany house, once owned by Vivien Greene, had guide price of €3,000-€4,000

“Parenting a newborn is like finding yourself in a Beckett play: you’ve no idea what you’re doing or what it all means or how it’s going to end, so you just turn up and muddle through.”

If I could go back, there’s lots of advice I’d give myself – not that I’d have listened

Ní Dhubhda is hoping to avoid replacing her daughter’s school uniform this year. “Everything is crested, and has to be ordered from a specialist uniform supplier

Sandra calculates that back to school costs for her daughter will come to €1,367 this summer

  Family and friends following the hearse in the Liberties on their way to the funeral Mass of comedian Brendan Grace. Photograph: Nick Bradshaw/The Irish Times

Echoes of their father’s sharp wit as eulogies delivered by each of Grace’s four children

Kilrush town hall and square, Co Clare. Photograph:  Eamon Ward

It’s not so much that the town had a tough recession – the boom never really arrived

Sleeplessness is this year’s gluten intolerance: it’s the latest, tediously fashionable affliction of the worried well. Photograph: iStock

Sleep has become the preoccupation of my generation

Sallins, Co Kildare: the population has doubled between 2002 and 2016 from just under 3,000 to almost 6,000. Photograph: Dara Mac Dónaill/The Irish Times

Our series on challenges facing rural Ireland looks at what happens when a town doubles in size

Frances Street in Kilrush, Co Clare. Photograph: Eamon Ward

A whole tier of Irish towns and villages need major investment. Can they be saved?

 ‘To try to get the children off screens, we’ve tried relaxed self-regulation; strict, top-down governance; old-fashioned bribery’. Photograph: istock

Give Up Yer Aul Screens: Minecraft was no match for Project Runway family edition

The Catholic Church’s 31 page document rejecting gender fluidity landed during Pride month.  File photograph: Filippo Monteforte/AFP/Getty Images

Jennifer O’Connell: Church rejection of gender fluidity was perfectly timed for Pride month

Project Parenthood means pouring every particle of ourselves into transforming these small humans into functioning bigger ones. Photograph: E+/iStock/Getty

Why is it heresy to say you love your children fiercely but they don’t always make you happy?

Young woman examining her skin while looking herself in a mirror at her bathroom.

Jennifer O’Connell: Ageing is not for the faint of heart, but it’s better than the alternative

Thriving family business. Drogheda butcher Justin Callaghan, of Justin Callaghan & Sons. Photograph: Tom Honan

You already know you are what you eat. But experts say you also are where you live

A real woman’s 'summer readiness' wish list has never had anything much in common with the fantasies that magazines keep trying to peddle us

What do women want for summer? Clothes that fit and sandals you can walk in

Kitchen in Node Living Dublin  Photograph: Miki Barlok

Users say co-living schemes suit students and young workers – but for ‘just a few months’

Twenty thousand passengers were affected by the signal failure. File Photograph: Eric Luke / The Irish Times

Major signal fault left a yawning information chasm for passengers, writes Jennifer O’Connell

Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi. Photograph: Reuters/Kevin Lamarque

The footage was slowed down so that the US house speaker seemed to slur her words

Jeremy Kyle: his show, launched in 2005, was one of the early TV formats to capitalise on our endless appetite for human suffering. Photograph: ITV

Jennifer O'Connell on The Jeremy Kyle Show, emblem for these paradoxical times

‘Every single one of us can be profiled based on what they’re reading, watching, listening to.’ Photograph: Thomas Winz via Getty

But the recordings aren’t used to serve you ads. The industry has better ways of doing that

Imam Ibrahim Ndure with his daughter, Amie. ‘I feel like people don’t know enough, and that’s why they’re rejecting us. If they knew more, there wouldn’t be a problem,’ says Amie

‘Anti-Islamic agenda’ linked to withdrawal of permission for new Kilkenny cultural centre

Men need to step up to the plate and do their fair share of housework. Photograph: Getty Images

Jennifer O’Connell: 90% of Irish women do housework, compared with just 50% of men

Photograph: Jena Ardell/Moment/Getty

We have more choice than ever, but we are still in thrall to the concept of marriage. Why?

Maximum intoxication at minimum speed was the goal. Photograph: Getty

When your 16-year-old asks you to buy them a bottle of Jagermeister, laugh in their face

Irish gems: Sydney has the Bondi to Coogee walk. We have cliff walks in Kilkee (above) and Dunmore East. Photograph: Alan Betson

Jennifer O'Connell: It takes real determination to be idle on this spectacular little rock

 Patrick Quirke  arriving at court. Photograph: Colin Keegan, Collins Dublin

In Bansha and Cashel, where many suspected Quirke’s guilt, the talk is of little else

Summer’s here kids. Photograph:  Dara Mac Dónaill

When did holy statues move? How hot was 1995? What beach was voted Ireland’s best?

Troubling: the B&A research shows a correlation between low self-esteem and social-media use. Photograph: PhotoAlto/Getty

Sign of the Times: Irish people are doing more and more online. We want to switch off but can’t

‘I’m pretty sure she was up for it. But I didn’t want to do anything.’ Photograph: iStock

I’m listening to two young men doing what we think they are incapable of: having a meaningful conversation about consent

Marriage-equality referendum: 54% of adults said they felt pride in the result; 46% felt neutral or had no pride in it. Photograph: Brian Lawless/PA Wire

Sign of the Times: Survey suggests fear of change as 47% say we are ‘losing Irishness’

Members of the NUJ provide a guard of honour and applaud as a mark of respect as the remains of murdered journalist Lyra McKee leaves St Anne’s Cathedral, Belfast, after her funeral. Photograph: Liam McBurney/PA Wire

The sight of the journalist’s simple wooden coffin was too much for many of her friends

Lindan and Ray Wootten: “Theresa May has got to go. She’s had enough time. And now it’s time for somebody like Boris Johnson.” Photograph: Jennifer O’Connell

Thatcher’s hometown of Grantham is awash with anger and dismay at failure to exit EU

Ryanair: some people see boarding times as merely aspirational, like Brexit dates. Photograph: UIG via Getty

Jennifer O’Connell: Smug about being in the short non-priority queue? You’re type one

If you have an interesting long-term relationship story to share, The Irish Times would like to hear from you.

The Irish Times is looking to speak to couples about their experiences

A woman cries as people look at Notre Dame  engulfed in flames from the Paris’s Hotel de Ville esplanade on Monday. Photograph: STR/AFP/Getty Images

Jennifer O’Connell: You don’t have to have lived in Paris to have had a visceral reaction to seeing Notre Dame gutted

Kourtney Kardashian’s new blog, Poosh, is the latest celebrity site peddling ‘achievable’ lifestyles to the young and impressionable. Photograph: David Livingston/Getty Images

Kourtney Kardashian’s Poosh is latest attempt to cash in on increasingly lucrative insecurity industry

Caroline Dwyer: ‘We didn’t get to hear anything until the following day. I was at work, and my husband rang me. He said ‘Have you had any strange phone calls?’ ’ Photograph Nick Bradshaw/The Irish Times

Bereft mother still fighting to prove that Michael's killing unlawful and unjustified

Nigel Farage during the Brexit Party’s European Parliament elections campaign launch in Coventry. Photograph: Darren Staples/Bloomberg

Ex-Ukip leader promises ‘democratic revolution’ as he launches party

Mark Croft and his son Lucas in Bolsover. Photograph: Jennifer O’Connell

Locals in the former pit town of Shirebrook are dealing with a changing social fabric

Martina and Seán Cox. Seán will attend a fundraiser in his honour on Friday.

‘Let’s just hope we fill the stadium for him,’ says wife Martina

Nasa astronaut Christina Hammock Koch, one of two women  due to take part in a historic spacewalk, which had to be cancelled because of a   lack of available spacesuits to fit them.  Photograph: Kirill Kudryavtsev/AFP/Getty Images

Smartphones too big for women’s hands, seatbelts couldn't have been designed by anyone with breasts

Martina Cox pictured with her husband Sean Cox at the National Rehabilitation Hospital in Dún Laoghaire. Photograph supplied by family.

A savage attack outside a Liverpool match in April 2018 changed Sean Cox’s life

Irish moderators watch horrific videos so you don’t have to. What does it do to them?

London, which is in England, which is part of the United Kingdom. “So what is Britain, then?” the American woman said, audibly exasperated. I wanted to tell her she isn’t the only one. Photograph: Justin Tallis/AFP/Getty Images

'What is Britain, then?' the American woman asked, stumbling on the toughest existential question of all

Let’s talk about sex: not just as a list of dire warnings. Photograph: iStock

We need to talk about sex without the words ‘when two people are very much in love…’

Bereft mourners at Connor Currie’s funeral. Photograph:  Liam McBurney/PA

Community shows solidarity with bereft families on day that will linger long in memory

The coffin of Lauren Bullock is taken from St Patrick’s Church, Donaghmore. Photograph: Liam McBurney/PA

Teenager was ‘energetic and full of life’, priest tells mourners

Warner Bros chief Kevin Tsujihara steps down after 25 years with the company. File photograph:  Robyn Beck/ AFP/Getty Images

If a relationship is consensual - is it part of the #MeToo movement?

Caolan McKenna from Tyrone enjoying last year’s St Patrick’s Festival parade in Dublin. There was a time when watching a slow-moving caravan of Massey Fergusons and frostbitten scouts was considered high entertainment in this country. Photograph: Dara Mac Dónaill

If it’s any consolation, St Patrick’s Day is even more pressure on the ones who got away

Dublin’s Grand Canal Dock. When it comes to the post-Brexit bounce for Dublin, it may be a case of be careful what you wish for. Photograph: Getty Images

The staff of 100 financial firms are moving to Ireland due to Brexit. How will that go?

Rose McGowan. Photograph: Mike Marsland/WireImage/Getty

The actor on #MeToo, Harvey Weinstein and why Sinéad O’Connor was ‘100% right’

We have let Irish children down in the past, inexcusably and with unthinkable consequences, and we quite rightly want to make sure that never happens again.

Jennifer O'Connell: I suspect what we’re most scared of isn’t the daily livestream of risks. It is the censure of other parents

Author Taylor Jenkins Reid.

Taylor Jenkins Reid’s sixth novel is about a fictional rock band but explores real life brilliantly

Lorraine Lordan (left) of Cartoon Saloon and  former  Irish rugby international Fiona Steed pictured at Network Ireland’s Celebration of International Women’s Day 2019 at Thomond Park, Limerick. Photograph: Brian Arthur

‘I long for the day when we don’t have to celebrate how fabulous we are,’ says former rugby international

Virgin Atlantic air stewardess and steward training. Photograph: Mike Kemp for The Washington Post via Getty Images

Comment: If this seems a reluctant shunt, rather than a leap forward – it’s because it is

A demonstrator, dressed as a dinosaur, waves a European Union flag during a protest outside of the Houses of Parliament in central London last November. Photograph:  Tolga Akmen/AFP/Getty Images

Jennifer O'Connell: My friend’s father told her not to come home until she ditched her boyfriend. He wasn’t an addict – he was Eng(...)

Squeezing into pre-pregnancy jeans is now a priority just below ‘keep baby alive’

They’re everywhere, little girls like the one I know: clicking and deleting and filtering and smoothing and stretching and whitening and polishing and schooling themselves in the art of insecurity

She is 11 years old, this selfie-taking, quietly self-loathing little girl, schooled in insecurity

A photograph of Shamima Begum is held up by her eldest sister Renu Begum in February 2015, after the British teenager went missing. Photograph: Laura Lean/AFP/Getty Images

There is little sympathy for the ‘jihadi bride’ whose British citizenship is being revoked

Cactus: “too prickly” for men, apparently. Photograph: iStock/Getty

The latest variation on the Rules theme is that your interior decor could be sending out the 'wrong' signals

When someone gets out of bed when you’re running late for the early train, and de-ices the window of your car, that’s love.

‘I have erotic dreams about waking up and discovering my car has been valeted’

Within a few days, I had many, many lists. They were proliferating as rampantly as Starbucks outlets in an upwardly-mobile urban environment. File photograph: iStockPhoto

No longer was my head stuck in my phone when I should have been interacting with my family

The funeral of Micheál Roarty  in Dunlewey,  Co  Donegal. Photograph: Michael McHugh/PA Wire

As funerals of four young victims took place, prayers were offered that people would ‘exercise extreme care on the road’

Ellie Kisyombe arrived in Ireland, terrified, in 2010. Now she is standing for local election

#Metoo backlash: Men and women have never been equal at work. Stock Photograph: Getty

The #MeToo backlash is not an excuse for male execs to hide behind

TripAdvisor: review sites have made us omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent and, presumably, an omnipain in the posterior for people working in the service industry. Photograph: iStock

Jennifer O’Connell: Sometimes I can’t resist spewing hot, angry words into the keyboard

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Read on for a better understanding of the sometimes divisive ‘transgender issue’

Russell Brand: “I’m very  focused on the mystical connotations of Mabel’s beauty and grace. Not so good on the nappies.” Photograph: Carl Court/Getty Images

The self-styled revolutionary has revealed that he is too “sensitive and awake and aware” to do anything so dull and predictable a(...)

Say yes to that thing. You’ve got the rest of your life to be busy or tired or hungover.

Motherhood immediately made my anxiety much worse, and eventually much better

St George flags in the windows and a “Vote Leave” poster on a house in Redcar, northeast England, in 2016. Photograph: Scott Heppell/AFP/Getty Images

How does a society that has been so badly fractured begin to heal?

Abu Hanif opened a shop after he had to close two takeaway restaurants when he could no longer find chefs. Photograph: Jennifer O’Connell

Bradford feels forgotten by rest of Britain and now sees Brexit as an elitist thing

Sixth-form students St Mary’s College, Hull, in England: Emily Degg, Juliet Joseph, Piper Wilson, Nishan Singh, Claric e Noble, Somto Onoh, Niamh Flanagan, William Su, Freya Whittaker, Princess Lobaha.

Hull sixth-form pupils on what should happen next, now Theresa May’s deal has been defeated

Anne Gorman: “The old guard feel neglected.” Photograph: Jennifer O’Connell

Wrong assumptions and flawed facts underpin Hull’s attitude to Border and Brexit

 William and Kate with   Meghan and  Harry  on Christmas Day in Sandringham. Photograph: Stephen Pond/ Getty Images

Jennifer O'Connell: Kate is seen taking her earrings off, while Meghan hisses and Eugenie cheers from the sidelines

Saoirse Ronan on Friday during ‘A Conversation with’ at the Google Foundry Dublin, to promote the release of ‘Mary, Queen of Scots’. Photograph: Andres Poveda

Having worked half her life, Saoirse Ronan is finding her early 20s scary and exciting

Yann Moix in 2013. Photograph: Francois Lo Presti/AFP/Getty Images

Yann Moix might be sexist – but is he just saying what other men are thinking?

The Apple watch: ‘Even though this relationship doesn’t seem to be doing either of us any good, I can’t quite give her up.’ Photograph: Lynne Cameron/PA Wire

Whatever my Apple watch wanted me to do, I’d do uncomplainingly, even though the red flags were there from the beginning

 Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez  talks to fellow members of Congress during the first session of the 116th Congress at the US Capitol on Friday. Photograph:  Win McNamee/Getty Images

Seeing politicians weep, hug and dance was a different kind of politics to Trump’s machoism

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