Kate Holmquist, working from home in Glenageary, Co Dublin, circa 1990

Her work showed a consistent interest in issues of sexuality, family life and social change

More than one in ten men who responded to The Irish Times sex survey said they used online pornography every day. Photograph: Thinkstock

Our recent survey included the following previously unpublished material on pornography use. Here, therapists and psychologists of(...)

Pornography: For those who use it daily, porn can cause huge difficulty. It often takes over their thoughts and lives. Photograph: Thinkstock

A recent Irish Times survey suggests pornography is being widely used in Ireland. Therapists say it distorts our sexuality and – f(...)

A four-day forest retreat promises yoga, food, dance, creativity and a lot more, writes Kate Holmquist

Facebook takes first step towards a future of robotic sex slaves and even spouses

There are unwritten rules around children in restaurants. You expect parents will have enough self-awareness and manners to move the child outside if the child is disturbing others. Photograph: Getty Images

Darla Neugebauer, the owner of Marcy's Diner in Portland, Maine let her frustration out on a screaming child and seemed proud to d(...)

The Ashley Madison website that allowed married members to share their secret sexual fantasies. Photograph: Getty Images

Up to 115,000 Irish people joined the Ashley Madison website and now face having their private fantasies made public

A California-based biologist claims to have discovered a cause of serious illness in people with exceptionally healthy diets

‘We cows are needed.’ Photograph: Thinkstock

I am cranky. I am 58. I am demanding. And you should all be grateful

This week, Dart commuters were disrupted by a naked man lying on the tracks. Kate Holmquist was on that train, and persuaded him t(...)

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You can’t win: if you’re a martyr to keeping your family happy no matter what, you lose your dignity; if you’re a harridan who ‘na(...)

The sex survey: Bringing phones and laptops to bed is impacting negatively on your sex lives

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How you answered questions about relationships, intimacy, sex drive and fidelity

Women who responded to The Irish Times sex survey were more likely to identify as bisexual rather than lesbian, while the converse applied to male respondents. Photograph: Thinkstock/Getty Images

Lesbians and gay men report being happier with their sex lives than heterosexuals

Body confidence: women grow happier with their bodies as they get older, with 59 per cent of women aged 50-64 feeling happy. Photograph: Getty Images

What you told us about your body image, ability to orgasm, and erectile dysfunction

On Monday we publish the full results of our sex survey, which more than 12,000 of you participated in. As a taster of what's ahea(...)

BDSM is now ‘part of the fantasy range’ for many people, according to psychotherapist and Irish Times columnist Trish Murphy.

One in five respondents said they have done it, rising to one in four among 17-24-year-olds

Almost half of the sexually active men who responded to The Irish Times sex survey masturbate more than once a week. Photograph: Thinkstock/Getty Images

Almost half of sexually active men do it more than once a week, compared with a quarter of women

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Seven in ten female respondents aged 25 to 34 said they have used them

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More than 12,000 readers participated in The Irish Times sex survey, with some surprising results

‘Girls as young as 14 and 15 are waxing the hair off their arms, and every other part of their bodies. To be hairy isn’t womanly.’ Photograph: Dimas Ardian/Getty Images

For many of today’s young women, to have hairy underarms and legs is embarrassing. Which is a shame, because hair is sexy

Mama Lou: If she had kept her job in human resources at Axa financial, it would have all been so different

The very-much-alive Mama Lou, a strongwoman, helps to pen her own obituary: ‘She realised that if an abusive relationship could ha(...)

Top 13 toys for Christmas 2015 have been released. Kate Holmquist is not impressed

Joanna Lumley: ‘See your face in natural light, otherwise like me you’ll look like a cadaver or a tomato.’ Photograph: Brian Farrell

The actor was in Sligo recently for Yeats 150. We caught up with her and asked for her make-up and beauty tips

Salivate some more in the search for the perfect patty

‘Imagine the workplace where everyone is going around telling each other how they are actually feeling. It would be chaos, but nice chaos.’ Photograph: Thinkstock

Imagine if everyone told each other how they were actually feeling

Dakota Johnson and Jamie Dornan as Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey in the film of Fifty Shades of Grey: “Grey is not fascinating. He is not complex. He’s not even binary. Christian is one shade of psychopath – getting off on hurting Mommy by using Anastasia as a surrogate”

Grey can be read as a sadist’s self-help book, justifying the need for wounded men to control women as a form of therapy

Joan Mulvihill’s motto: ‘I will think more about how I make others feel and less about how they make me feel.’ Photograph: Aidan Crawley

The very-much-alive Joan Mulvihill, chief executive of the Irish Internet Association, helps pen her own obituary: ‘She was having(...)

Mother-of-five Naomi Nally reunited with her first boyfriend Padraic Scully through Facebook

Breaking Eggs creator Cliodhna Prendergast  baking with her daughter Iseult. Photograph: Julia Dunin

A new short video series is teaching children where their food comes from and how to cook it

Ceili Fitzpatrick: her greatest loves were unexpected

The very-much-alive Ceili Fitzgerald helps to pen her own obituary: ‘Having decided to follow her own dream in 2013, she was well-(...)

Our online survey will give us a snapshot of the sexual practices and experiences of Irish people

French parents never discipline or punish; they ‘educate’ in a loving manner, while also letting children know they are not the centre of their parents’ universe. Above, al fresco dining in France. Photograph: Philip Game/Lonely Planet via Getty Images

French parents put themselves first, let their babies cry and don’t allow snacking. Paris-based American author Pamela Druckerman (...)

These knickers come in several styles that incorporate a patented absorbent material and cost €21-€30

‘The flow began out of nowhere and I was alerted to it by the honking horn of a passing truck driver’

David McSavage:‘A desperation to prove myself to others, sponsored by an extreme feeling of unworthiness, is the thing that drives me to produce good things.’ Photograph: Eric Luke

The very-much-alive comedian helps pen his own obituary: ‘In attendance at his funeral were people who didn’t know him well enough(...)

Teresa Borza Di Nardi: ‘A perfectionist, she was always proud that they served only fresh potatoes.’ Photograph: Eric Luke

A series in which people help to pen their own obituaries while they are still alive. ‘Her philosophy: never serve your customers (...)

New research puts poor sleep patterns ahead of obesity and drinking in terms of productivity at work

When model Nicole Trunfino breastfed her son during a break in an Elle magazine photoshoot, the pairing was so good that it made t(...)

Martina Devlin, Ellen de Generes, Sebastian Barry . . . the reactions of writers, artists and entertainment figures to Ireland's v(...)

Melissa Hill: Her vivid imagination and ability to focus enabled her to produce 14 contemporary women’s novels in 12 years, the first of which was published by Poolbeg in 2003. Photograph: Peter Orford

A series in which people help to pen their own obituaries while they are still alive. Hill’s motto: ‘You only get one life: either(...)

Derek Davis: said he had developed his large, ebullient “persona” to match his size. Photograph: Arthur Carron/Collins

Always open about his struggles with obesity, Davis had over the past year lost a third of his body weight

Michael Ryan: his achievements included a book, The Complete Guide to Gay Life for New Explorers, which helped gay teenagers. Photograph: Cyril Byrne

A series in which people help to pen their own obituaries: ‘Michael Ryan (who is still very much alive) helped people deal with li(...)

Pictured, from left, are JP Connolly, Susan Ryder, Chris Gordon, Dr Lorraine Nancy O Brien, Christine Mc Quillan, Mary Grant, and Irish Times ‘trainee’ celebrant Kate Holmquist. Photograph: Cyril Byrne

With nearly a third of all marriages in Ireland now taking place in civil registry offices, couples are looking for new ways to ma(...)

Megan O’Neill: had an obsession with plastic spoons. Photograph: Conor Clinch

A series in which people help to pen their own obituaries: ‘While the country-pop singer had a sunny disposition, she didn’t showe(...)

“Don’t let them fool you”: Gay Byrne presenting his Lyric FM show. Photograph: Alan Betson

A recent conference in Dublin explored the ‘end of retirement’ – but is the ‘third act’ a concept only for the wealthy?

Annabel Karmel: ‘Self-belief is as important as competence.’ Photograph: Jenny Goodall/Daily Mail/Solo Syndication

A series in which people help to pen their own obituaries: ‘The death of her first child inspired Karmel to start a business dedic(...)

Elizabeth McClean and Inish O’Doherty came home from US for Christmas wedding in Ireland

Elva Trill’s advice to others was: ‘The worst thing we can do is stress ourselves out over nonsense’

A series in which people help to pen their own obituaries. ‘Elva Trill was cast as some extreme characters, but as long as people (...)

‘Life becomes more about you and the things that are important to you.’ Illustration: Getty Images

It can happen in your 40s, and this huge change can affect your personality, sexual needs and general outlook. But it can also be (...)

Sandy Kennedy: her strengths were energy and empathy, friends recalled at her wake, at which loud rock music was played as she lay in a wicker coffin

A series in which people help to write their own obituaries: ‘Kennedy always made time to play. She argued that idealism was hope,(...)

Duke Special: ‘One friend recalled that he had an awkward habit that could cause social embarrassment. It could nearly be called a psychic tick’

In the first of a new series, Duke Special helps to compose the obituary he would like to have when he dies, and plans an unforget(...)

Emer O’Toole: ‘Because I see sexuality as a spectrum, defining myself as gay, straight or bisexual is not the way to describe my sexuality.’ Photograph: Meera Paleja

Our sexuality constantly changes, says Emer O’Toole, whose book describes her gender-bending coming of age in Galway

‘People are working hard, long hours, and they don’t have time to clean.’ Photograph: Getty

Cleaning firms are seeing an increase in demand as people decide that time matters more than the cost – or embarrassment – of hiri(...)

Abstainer or moderator? Rebel or upholder? Questioner or obliger? Only you know what categories you fall into and what is the best way for you to get rid of bad habits, according to Gretchen Rubin. Photograph: Rich Legg/Getty Images

It’s the season of renewal and good intentions, but whatever you do, do it your own way, advises New Yorker Gretchen Rubin in her (...)

Our most important relationships are not with blood relatives but with partners (especially if you’re a man) and friends (especial(...)

Devoted: Yvonne Lynam and Kevin, her son. Photograph: Brenda Fitzsimons

Being a full-time carer has enabled Yvonne Lynam to give her father life, her mother the freedom to live on her own and her childr(...)

Next generation: Jennifer Butler and Gerry Niland see themselves as the bridge between their own backgrounds and the futures of their sons, nine-year-old Robert and 13-year-old Daniel. Photograph: Eric Luke

Four years ago Gerry Niland feared that his feisty, sociable wife, Jennifer Butler, would die from her heart condition. But they a(...)

Katie Taylor with third-year pupils, from left, Rebecca O’Grady, Shannon MacAnaspie and Lauryn Groome, at New Cross College, Finglas. Photograph: Eric Luke

The boxer believes girls should have more female sporting role models, and so she is mentoring teens in Sky Sports’ Living for Spo(...)

‘The State, the Justice system and the Constitution have created a punitive system of divorce. At the very point when people in crisis need support, they are instead given one legal hurdle after the next, with the lawyers’ coffers growing.’  Photograph: Getty Images

‘The cost of divorce, the lengthy, emotionally cruel process and the hideous atmosphere of the family law courts can all be change(...)

Screengrab from ‘Pixel’s entry for a wedding competition on Newstalk. The teacher had to obscure her face in the video to protect her career.

‘Pixel’ and partner win contest after masking her face in video entry to protect career

Kate Holmquist: “I’m on the Potentialife yellow brick road along with everyone else.”

Seeing my strengths recognised has been a real boost, although I’m stunned at what they are.

Screengrab of ‘Pixel’, a gay teacher at the centre of a social media storm around her need to protect her career by pixelating her face for a lip-syncing Newstalk wedding competition.

Woman says ‘no political agenda’ behind move; Minister says people should be ‘horrified’

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Daisy Buchanan’s book about dating in the digital age suggests enlisting a friend to give you a second opinion and using Twitter t(...)

‘Pope Francis even thinks that smacking children is “beautiful” when it’s done right.’ Photograph:  EPA/GIUSEPPE LAMI

Three out of five adults support a ban on slapping, research has found

 Tim Schmalz with his homeless Jesus Statue which is being gifted to Ireland by a benafactor. Photograph: Cyril Byrne/The Irish Times.

Piece will be placed at Dublin’s Christ Church cathedral

Sculptor Tim Schmalz displays a scale model of Homeless Jesus while visiting The Irish Times offices in Dublin last week. Photograph: Cyril Byrne

Tim Schmalz’s bronze statue is destined for Christ Church Cathedral, and it might be followed by a second statue near where homele(...)

Stephen Fry (57) and the man he recently married, Elliott Spencer (27). Photographs: Niki Nikolova/Filmmagic

Stephen Fry recently married a man 30 years his junior. What factors determine the chances of success of such relationships?

‘There is no standard template for a good and effective mother.’ Photograph: Getty Images

In the book Things I Wish I’d Known, writers who are mothers share all the things your friends would never tell you about the expe(...)

Angus Ridgeway of Potentialife, Hugo MacNeill of Goldman Sachs and Tim Arnold of Hailo at the ‘Be Your Best’ workshop in the ‘Irish Times’ offices. Photograph: Dara Mac Dónaill/The Irish Times

The Potentialife programme aims to bring out the best in businesspeople

The American Way: “What I’ve learned in the US is that divorce can be streamlined and it doesn’t have to erode the family,” says Michelle.

After six years of a ‘draining’ divorce process in Ireland, one woman moved to US

Cold law:  Harry spent €20,000 in court to get greater access to his children. Before this was negotiated, his ex-wife would stop him from seeing them. Photograph: Reuters

Should a woman in her 40s be financially supported by her ex-husband instead of going out to work?

Alison: “Finding a committed, loving relationship is difficult for a woman who is separated or divorced with children”

Alison: ‘My ex left when I was pregnant with our eldest and he was deadbeat in that period’

Earlier this week, the Government announced its intention to hold a referendum in May, with the intention of reducing the waiting time for divorce to two years Illustration: Dearbhla Kelly

Almost 20 years ago, after a bitter debate, Ireland voted for the introduction of divorce. Almost 100,000 people have availed of t(...)

After asking and answering the 36 questions, you then spend four minutes looking into each other’s eyes

The 36-question love spell that psychologists say will find you a mate

Claire Byrne: ‘I expect to be respected as a professional person doing a job, not just as a woman doing a job.’ Photograph: Dara Mac Dónaill

Coming back from maternity leave is stressful enough without having to establish a new live TV show that bears your name, but Byrn(...)

There are thousands of therapists out there, but it’s not easy to assess their qualifications, particularly in the throes of a cri(...)

Studies in the American Psychological Association’s  Journal of Family Psychology looked at how spiritual beliefs seem to strengthen generally happy marriages

Even if you have no religion and worry about being hypocritical, services improve relationships

Snow falls on Homeless Jesus in Toronto. Photograph: Carlos Osorio/Toronto Star via Getty Images

Tim Schmalz is hoping the capital can find a home for his controversial statue, an ambition that is especially pertinent after the(...)

Feeling overwhelmed already? Christmas doesn’t have to be so stressful.

Candles pictured outside at the doorway in Molesworth street where Jonathon Corrie who was homeless was found dead. Photograph: Aidan Crawley/The Irish Times

‘Scandalous conditions’ of homelessness highlighted in the year of dead man’s birth

As the US celebrates ‘Turkey Day’ today, some Americans living in Ireland give us their food memories of the holiday and share som(...)

‘Frozen Snow Glow Elsa is just another sign that constantly force-fed with commercial fantasy and technology, children don’t need to make an effort to entertain themselves any more, so creativity withers.’ Photograph: John Stillwell/PA

Opinion: ‘Why does an anxious parent work themselves into a state, convinced their child’s Christmas will be ruined without a part(...)

‘The 10 per cent of Irish men who buy sex are under the illusion that there is mutual pleasure in the expensive sexual release they’ve booked online with a woman’ Photograph: Getty Images

Opinion: ‘In the debate about the criminalisation of the purchase of sex, it is an overlooked issue’

Seafield House, Co Sligo

From the archive: A book seeks to chart all the dark and spirit-laden places in Ireland

Drawing from fashion

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Computer code shapes our world – regardless of your age, job or gender. So why are so few of us proficient in this most modern of (...)

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