Donald and Jane Maxwell at their Cabinteely home with their grandchildren (front, from left) Charlie Hilliard, Clara Maxwell, Lucy Hilliard, Alison Plunkett and Lisa Maxwell; (back row, from left) Tanya Plunkett, David Maxwell, Daniel Plunkett and Ben Hilliard. Photograph: Cyril Byrne

It took a long trek from Dublin, and many rounds of “I Spy”, to visit my only granny, who lived in Norfolk. But anticipation of the pleasure of being (...)