John Gottman

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The person doing the stonewalling – the silent one – is probably  ‘flooded’ emotionally. Photograph: iStock

If you live in a city it’s not rare to see couples fighting on the street, unless you happen to dwell in the sort of area where rows go on behind dis(...)

Divorce is painful and costly on an emotional level but it also costs the exchequer a huge amount of money. People’s mental and physical health deteriorates.

Although no results are available at the time of writing, it is safe to presume that the referendum on removing time limits on divorce from the Consti(...)

Photograph: Jena Ardell/Moment/Getty

The architecture of our intimate lives is changing. Irish couples have more choice than ever about how they want to design their relationships, and th(...)

In the first flush of a relationship or marriage, it’s easy to believe that, for richer or poorer, in sickness or in health, love will pull us through

What happens when you realise that your “happily ever after” is no longer happy? When you have that feeling in your gut and you’re just not sure (...)

Laughter and joy are key to a relationship. The financial cost should never be an obstacle to getting married.

Two days away from the Feast of St Valentine, it is good to return to the appeal of Pope Francis when he spoke to engaged and newly married couples du(...)

Taking a break, which could include a night’s sleep, allows each participant to calm down, to get their rational brains back in action.

Never go to bed angry. Right? Wrong. Wise as this piece of advice might seem for married couples and for people in long term relationships, it just is(...)

My friends think that I should just get on with it and accept my role as the main breadwinner

Problem: I have been in a relationship with my lesbian partner for more than five years. Early on in the relationship we decided that we wanted to hav(...)

After more than three years it is natural that a couple should take stock question what happens next

I am young, 21, in college, and am studying a good degree. I have a good network of friends and family, and also a boyfriend of three and a half years(...)

Christmas fear: if there was ever a season for arguing, we are just about to enter it. Photograph: Michael Goldman/Photographer’s Choice/Getty

Sometime over the next 48 hours you may find yourself having a screaming row with someone you love. Admittedly, that’s at the extreme end. More likely(...)

'I have zero social life and there are days when I have to convince myself not to start drinking at noon. Sometimes I cry, but I mostly feel angry or panicked.'

Question: I am in my mid-30s. I had a good career overseas, but I moved home two years ago because my husband and I didn’t want to continue having a l(...)

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