Lady Gaga: ‘After I was assaulted when I was 19 I changed forever’
‘Star Is Born’ actor speaks out about sexual attack and mental health at Elle awards
Lady Gaga made a powerful speech as she accepted an Elle Women in Hollywood award on Monday night. The musician and actor spoke honestly about sexual assault, mental illness and the importance of women lifting each other up.
Wearing an oversized Marc Jacobs suit, her hair in a low bun, she adopted a lower-key look than the extravagant ensembles she has been seen in while promoting her hit movie, A Star Is Born. “Today I decided I wanted to take the power back. Today I wear the pants,” she said about her choice of outfit. She also used the occasion to announce her engagement to the talent agent Christian Carino. This is an edited extract from Lady Gaga’s speech:
“I tried on dress after dress today getting ready for this event, one tight corset after another, one heel after another, a diamond, a feather, thousands of beaded fabrics and the most beautiful silks in the world. To be honest, I felt sick to my stomach. And I asked myself: What does it really mean to be a woman in Hollywood?
After I was assaulted when I was 19 I changed forever. Part of me shut down for many years. I still have days where I feel like it was my fault
“We are not just objects to entertain the world. We are not simply images to bring smiles or grimaces to people’s faces. We are not members of a giant beauty pageant meant to be pit against one another for the pleasure of the public. We women in Hollywood, we are voices. We have deep thoughts and ideas and beliefs and values about the world, and we have the power to speak and be heard and fight back when we are silenced.
“As a sexual-assault survivor by someone in the entertainment industry, as a woman who is still not brave enough to say his name, as a woman who lives with chronic pain, as a woman who was conditioned at a very young age to listen to what men told me to do, I decided today I wanted to take the power back. Today I wear the pants.
“In an age where I can barely watch the news, I gasped at the unjust men, and some women quite frankly, that I see running this country. I had a revelation that I had to be empowered to be myself today more than ever. To resist the standards of Hollywood, whatever that means. To resist the standards of dressing to impress. To use what really matters: my voice.
“After I was assaulted when I was 19 I changed forever. Part of me shut down for many years. I didn’t tell anyone. I avoided it myself. And felt shame even still today standing in front of you. I feel shame for what happened to me. I still have days where I feel like it was my fault.
“After I shared what happened to me with very powerful men in this industry, nobody helped me. No one offered my guidance or a helping hand to lead me to a place where I felt justice; they didn’t even point me in the direction of the mental-health assistance I was in dire need of. Those men hid because they were afraid of losing their power.
Let’s get louder. And not just as women. But as humans. And see that there are great men in the world. And ask them to hold our hands. For justice
“And because they hid, I began to hide. I hid for a long time, until I started to feel physical pain. Then I had to go to the doctor, because I didn’t know what was wrong with me. And then I was diagnosed with PTSD and fibromyalgia, which many people don’t think is real, and I don’t even know what the fuck to say about that.
“But I’ll tell you what it is. It’s a syndrome that is essentially a cyclone of stress-induced pain. And I really wish my friend Lena Dunham was here tonight, because I think she could probably articulate this much better than me. And I hope we can all agree that she’s a remarkable woman. Depression, anxiety, eating disorders, trauma: these are just a few examples of the forces that can lead to this tornado of pain.
“So what I would like to say in this room of powerful women and men today is, Let’s work together to beckon the world towards kindness. I’m fortunate enough now to have the resources to help me. But for many the resources either don’t exist or people don’t have the ability to pay for or access them. I want to see mental health become a global priority. We’re not able to control all of the challenges and tragedies that life throws our way. But we can work together. This room can work together to heal each other. And we can also try to find the strength in the best way that we can to ask for help if we need it...
“It is my personal dream that there would be a mental-health expert teacher or therapist in every school in this nation and, hopefully, one day around the world. Let’s lift our voices. I know we are, but let’s get louder. And not just as women. But as humans. And see that there are great men in the world. And ask them to hold our hands. For justice. That our voices be heard. Whatever our story may be. For an equal standing.
“We will fight for justice for women and men and those with other sexual identities. For me, this is what it means to be a woman in Hollywood. It means, I have a platform. I have a chance to make a change. I pray we listen and believe and pay closer attention to those around us to those in need...
“Be a helping hand. Be a force for change. Thank you, Nina Garcia. Thank you Stephen Gan. I was an outcast and you believed in me, and I wouldn’t be here without you. Thank you, Elle. Thank you all the loved ones in my life. Bobby, I love you... My fiance, Christian. All the loved ones in my life who take care of me every day. And Ryan Murphy. Thanks for giving me my first leading role. You know that Golden Globe belongs to you. Thank you to all of you, everybody in this room, who has supported me in having a voice.”