Is it okay not to orgasm? Friends think I’m enduring bad sex

Ask Roe: I have sex with my husband when I’m not turned on. Are they right?

I find myself feeling a bit alienated by my friends’ conversations. Photograph: iStock

I find myself feeling a bit alienated by my friends’ conversations. Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe,

I’m a 34 year old woman and I have been with my husband for eight years. I still have a lot of single friends and love them dearly, and consider myself sex-positive. But I find myself feeling a bit alienated by their conversations about sex and the singular focus on orgasms and pleasure above all.

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