‘We’ve been married for 32 years but I found gay pornography on my husband’s phone’

Dear Roe: Do I turn a blind eye to it for the sake of our kids or challenge him on it?

Dear Roe: ‘Pornography does not define an orientation.’

Dear Roe: ‘Pornography does not define an orientation.’

Dear Roe,

I found gay pornography on my husband’s phone. We’ve been married for 32 years and have three adult children. Do I turn a blind eye to it for the sake of my kids or do I challenge him on it? Do I ask him if he is gay and help him come to terms with it or pretend that I didn’t see anything?

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