Was I too hasty in leaving my uncertain boyfriend?

Ask Roe: He said he needed time to think about how he was feeling and it floored me

Did I do the right thing, or was I too harsh?

Did I do the right thing, or was I too harsh?

Dear Roe,

I’m a woman in my 30s and was recently seeing a man for a few months. Although lockdown limited some of our dates and how we managed our relationship, we were in a good space and it was all very lovely. Out of nowhere, he said he wanted to put the brakes on and that he was confused about what he was looking for. It completely floored me. He didn’t give any explanation except to say that he didn’t want to see me that weekend as planned and that he needed time to think about how he was feeling. He asked if we could meet again after he had time to think, but I told him that I didn’t want to do that and that it was better if we just ended things. We haven’t had any contact since. I’m really upset about this and miss him. I really thought that things between us had long-term potential. I’m wondering if I was too harsh and if I should have hung in there and let him have the time to think. At the same time, I want to be with someone who wants to be with me too and knows that they do. Did I do the right thing, or was I too harsh?

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