Should I tell my ex how much she hurt me?

Ask Roe: I was ill and unable to be the person she needed – maybe that’s why she fell out of love

‘You sacrificed important parts of yourself – your needs, your boundaries, your health – in order to focus solely on her.’ Photograph: iStock

‘You sacrificed important parts of yourself – your needs, your boundaries, your health – in order to focus solely on her.’ Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe,

Should I tell an ex how much they hurt me? It’s been months since we broke up and I can see she is moving on with her life while I am stuck. When I was dumped, I took it respectfully but now I’m wishing I had laid out exactly how much I was hurt. I became ill with stress during the relationship as I was constantly worried about her. I don’t think she is even aware of how badly she impacted me. Because I was so worried about her I felt I couldn’t talk it through as I did not want to add any more stress on to her. Now that I think about it, because I was so ill I was unable to be the person she needed and maybe that’s why she fell out of love? Even without that fact, I’m wondering should she know.

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