‘My wife has not wanted sex for 10 years’

Dear Roe: ‘My lovely wife has a tiny belly and never wants me to see her body’

Assure your wife that you find her beautiful and are still attracted to her, and that you want to be more intimate with her. Photograph: iStock

Assure your wife that you find her beautiful and are still attracted to her, and that you want to be more intimate with her. Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe,
My wife and I have been married since the mid-1990s and have two gorgeous children. Now, my lovely wife has a tiny little belly after our children’s births, though she’s not fat at all. She has not wanted to have sex with me for more than 10 years. She never allows me to see her body but I love her the way she is. What to do? I’m desperate!

The bad news is that there’s no magic wand I can tell you to wave so that your wife’s body image and sex drive will suddenly improve. Those are two issues that only your wife can truly understand, and take steps to work on – and then, that will happen only if she wants it to.

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