‘My needy friend texts me several times a day. It’s not normal’

Tell Me About It: ‘It’s not my fault she doesn’t have many other close relationships’

Wed, Nov 6, 2019, 06:01

Trish Murphy

‘My friend texts me probably five times a day on WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook.’ Photograph: iStock

‘My friend texts me probably five times a day on WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook.’ Photograph: iStock

I am a 23-year-old woman. I have one friend, who texts me probably five times a day on WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook. I prioritise face-to-face time over time spent texting: I’ll text people for sure, but it’s usually friends in Australia and not someone I could meet for coffee next week.

I find it distressing and intrusive having a friend messaging me all the time and feel guilty for ignoring most of the messages, but it’s the only way I can control the behaviour even slightly as if I start replying to even more than a few, the frequency would go up.

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