‘My husband got angry when I suggested sex – we haven’t been intimate in 20 years’

Tell Me About It: I think he has become comfortable in our relationship

Is there any hope after this long a time? Photograph: iStock

Is there any hope after this long a time? Photograph: iStock

Question: My husband and I have been married for 48 years and it has been mostly good. However, we have not had sex for the last 20. I have been obese for most of my life, so I was unattractive and snored a lot. He has slept in a different room.

He has stayed with me all this time and has always cared about me and treated me great despite this. I had weight-loss surgery a few years ago and lost 120lb (8st 8lb/54kg) and am slender and feeling well physically. I have retired recently, and he still works part time – I am 70 he is 71. We have been enjoying a lot of fun things together and enjoying ourselves.

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