‘My family treated me like a liar when I told them I was sexually abused’

Tell Me About It: The 12-year-old you needs to be believed so that healing can begin

This experience  is likely to affect any future intimacy where vulnerability and trust need to be at the core of the encounter. Photograph: iStock

This experience is likely to affect any future intimacy where vulnerability and trust need to be at the core of the encounter. Photograph: iStock

Question: When I was 12, and my cousin was 14, we were molested by my mother’s older second cousin. We told my mum and aunt, who most likely told our fathers.

They didn’t do anything about it, except we were treated like liars initially, then the whole thing was brushed under the rug and never spoken of again. I have had a difficult relationship with my mother for years, which I’m starting to think began around about when this happened.

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