My boyfriend will not let me use a vibrator during sex

Ask Roe: It’s the only way I can orgasm. I’ve never climaxed through penetrative sex

I want to use my vibrator! How do I tell him this without offending him or having him view this as a challenge?

I want to use my vibrator! How do I tell him this without offending him or having him view this as a challenge?

Dear Roe,

I’ve used vibrators for years, and they’re the most reliable way of bringing me to orgasm, both on my own and with a partner. I’ve never had an orgasm through penetrative sex, and though I have previously had orgasms from oral sex, it has been rare.

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