My boyfriend is on a ‘sex strike’ . . . for the second time

Dear Roe: He called his first strike after his annoyance at me for not being adventurous

My boyfriend  wants “concrete proposals” to call-off the new strike, but I have no idea what that means. Photograph: iStock

My boyfriend wants “concrete proposals” to call-off the new strike, but I have no idea what that means. Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe, My boyfriend of nearly 7 years is on a “sex strike” (for a second time) and I’m embarrassed and frustrated. We had been going through a dry patch and following his disappointment and annoyance at me not being sexually adventurous, he called his first strike. The resolution was a “list”, which I had to write, detailing things that I am willing to do sexually and things that I may be willing to do. This list for me meant boundaries but it meant something else for him, I think, and relations have broken down again.

We did a list, but it is hard to put some of the ideas into practice in real life.

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