‘My 15-year-old son wants to dress in girls’ clothing’

My son is convinced he’s genderfluid. He has told me that’s it’s not a passing phase

People who are genderfluid can alternate between feeling more male and female at certain times. They can go through prolonged periods of time feeling more connected with one gender over the other, or it can vary day-to-day.

People who are genderfluid can alternate between feeling more male and female at certain times. They can go through prolonged periods of time feeling more connected with one gender over the other, or it can vary day-to-day.

Dear Roe,

My son is 15 and is convinced he’s genderfluid. He has told me that’s it’s not a passing phase. He wants me to buy him pink girl’s underwear and adult princess dresses. This urge seems to come and go, sometimes he feels girly but says he predominately feels male. He insists he’s not gay and does like girls. He doesn’t want to be this way and gets very upset about it at times. Once I went to buy him the underwear and I burst into tears in the shop. I couldn’t do it. I’m really struggling to accept this but I love my son whatever his likes/dislikes.

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