I want to take sex slowly, but women assume I’m not interested

Ask Roe: The only way I feel comfortable and enjoy sex is if I know the person

‘I’ve had a few women say they don’t think I’m interested in them because I wasn’t trying to have sex with them’

‘I’ve had a few women say they don’t think I’m interested in them because I wasn’t trying to have sex with them’

Dear Roe,

I’m a 29-year-old man. I was sexually abused as a child. I was abused by a man, but I’m straight. The abuse didn’t go on long, but I didn’t tell anyone about it at the time, and developed a lot of anxiety around the idea of dating and sex.

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