‘I’m a 31-year-old woman and I have never orgasmed with a partner’

Roe McDermott: 80% of women cannot orgasm from penetrative sex alone

‘Let my oft-repeated refrain ring out with the Christmas bells across the land: 80 per cent of women will never experience orgasm during penetrative sex.’ Photograph: iStock

‘Let my oft-repeated refrain ring out with the Christmas bells across the land: 80 per cent of women will never experience orgasm during penetrative sex.’ Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe,
I’m a 31-year-old woman and I have never orgasmed with a partner. I was late to the game aged 24 when I lost my virginity. I can orgasm myself without difficulty.

I am with my boyfriend now more than two years, I love him and hope to be with him in the long run. I have told him about my predicament and have showed him the area where it feels good for him to touch during foreplay, and this has helped my pleasure, but I don’t fully get the release. We have tried oral sex but again it never works fully and I find pressure of a hand more satisfying.

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