‘I love my fiance but worry about being with one person for the rest of my life’

Dear Roe: Am I being arrogant thinking I am above marriage?

The happy medium of being married but not being monogamous is, simply, having a non-monogamous marriage.

The happy medium of being married but not being monogamous is, simply, having a non-monogamous marriage.

Dear Roe,

I am getting married next year. I love my fiance but worry at the thought of tying myself to one person for the rest of my life; of only having sex and being romantic with one person. We fit together and he knows me better than anyone. I am very happy with him but, at times, I worry that we want different things. I have this idea of myself as independent and free and not conforming to society’s standards of happiness and yet I know I wouldn’t be happy without him in my life. Am I being arrogant thinking I am above marriage, when some women would kill to be in my shoes? I love him more than anyone but worry I won’t be able to stay monogamous. I worry that I am headed for disaster and will end up having an affair. There doesn’t seem to be a happy medium.

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