I am pregnant and do not know how to fix my relationship with my mother

Tell Me About It: Do I keep her at arm's length or do I try to make amends?

‘Sometimes, it almost seems like she is happy that she has something to use against me or give out about’

‘Sometimes, it almost seems like she is happy that she has something to use against me or give out about’

Question: I am six months pregnant with my first child. My problem is my mother. She is closer with my older sister, who is single, and they do a lot of things together. That would never really have bothered me, but things have gotten worse since my pregnancy.

A pattern has grown up over the years of me saying something (which I would think is innocuous), and it being taken by mum in the worst way possible. For instance, she had a glob of mayonnaise on her chin recently; I discreetly pointed it out to her, and she threw her head back, rolling her eyes and saying “for God’s sake”! The tone/mood of the evening changed thereafter and became very tense.

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