‘How do I know if I’m any good at sex?’

Ask Roe: I’ve read that women often feel uncomfortable asking for what they want

'Be confident enough to ask what your partner would like, and be vulnerable enough to share what you enjoy.'

'Be confident enough to ask what your partner would like, and be vulnerable enough to share what you enjoy.'

Dear Roe,

This may be a really stupid question, but how do you know if you’re good at sex, or how do you become good at sex? I’m a 21-year-old man and I’ve had sex with two women. I’d like to think they enjoyed themselves. But I’ve read a lot about how women don’t often feel comfortable asking for what they want, and if you asked me what makes me good in bed I wouldn’t know how to answer, or if I could honestly say that I am. Talking with mates is a bit vague when it comes to this, so I’m hoping you might be able to give some advice.

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