After a drunken joke, I think my wife is gay

Ask Roe: I want to set her free to be her true self, but know I’d be unlikely to find another partner

‘It appears I’ve acted as a 'beard' for my wife for many years, and I’m the last one to know.’ Photograph: iStock

‘It appears I’ve acted as a 'beard' for my wife for many years, and I’m the last one to know.’ Photograph: iStock

Dear Roe,

I’m a 40-something man, straight and happily married – or so I thought. After a drunken throwaway comment from my sister-in-law at a family gathering, the penny suddenly dropped. It appears I’ve acted as a “beard” for my wife for many years, and I’m the last one to know.

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