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Q Men have been telling me horrendous stories about their daughters bullying them. One father was threatened by his twentysomething daughter that i(...)

Shattering: empty nest, relationship test. Illustration: Neil Leslie/Ikon Images/Getty

Forward thinking Planning for retirement or semiretirement is usually seen as a financial task, but parents also need to do some emotional forward thi(...)

The best time of the year?

Q My wife and her mother are best buddies, allies and confidants, in a way that has always made me feel uncomfortable. Last Christmas between (...)

‘It’s only one day” the voice of reason bleats as all around people splurge, hoard and party in preparation for the most emotionally charged 24 hou(...)

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Q I met my wonderful, caring fiance a year ago in a whirlwind romance and we moved in together after seven months. I love him dearly and am so excited(...)

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Q I feel brilliant most of the time, but I can’t find a serious relationship, so what’s standing in my way? I am highly creative and don’t conform to (...)

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Q My first girlfriend left me in her 20s when she admitted she was gay. We didn’t see each other for 15 years. I got married and divorced. She had a (...)

Joe Brady with the Lucan Gospel Singers. Photograph: Aidan Crawley

Nobody heard him, the dead man,But still he lay moaning:I was much further out than you thoughtAnd not waving but drowning. ‘We think we have to prese(...)

’Your concentration drops and your motivation goes’: Terry O’Connor, who is unemployed, with his dog, Lewis. Photograph: Dara Mac Dónaill
Men overboard

‘Deep down, it hurts. I try to stay one step ahead of depression. During the day I’m busy, but night-times are hard,” says Derek, a 39-year-old who lo(...)


Unequal parenting and a ‘responsibility gap’ when it comes to household chores can have a toxic effect on the relationship.Photograph: Getty Images

Marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall knows it is a message most parents do not want to hear, so he is not surprised to have become a target of abuse a(...)