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ASK THE EXPERT: JOHN SHARRYanswers your parenting questions

I am recently separated from my husband and have been in the family law court five times trying to sort out access arrangements for our six-year-old son. The court granted an interim protection order against his father due to excessive alcohol consumption mixed with antidepressants, and his behaviour was very distressing to both our son and myself. Following a psychologist’s report, he was granted day access with supervised handover and return. He used only two of these visits, then stopped, saying I was the problem and that he would wait until his son could decide for himself about contact.