‘It is only me and the four walls’
The hour a week Alone volunteers spend with older people brings life-enhancing human connection
Martha Godsil outside her home in Artane, Dublin. Photograph: Cyril Byrne
It might seem an obvious fact that not all young people are the same or have similar needs, just because they share an age demographic. The same is true of people at the older end of life’s scale: not everyone has similar needs, and everyone is an individual, no matter what their age.
There are very many older people who live full, independent and rich lives. But for those who do not, whether through lack of family support, income or good health, services such as those offered by Alone are invaluable.
Martha Godsil is 87 and lives in a small flat in Artane, north Dublin. She grew up in East Wall and lived in England for 46 years. She returned 19 years ago because, “My heart was always in Ireland.”
Until her health deteriorated in recent years, Godsil availed of all the things she loved doing. “I liked walking and scenery,” she says. “I’d bring my flask and sandwiches and go to Howth and walk and have a picnic. I like the sea.”
She has not been able to do that for some years now: she is on her third pacemaker, has osteoporosis, and can no longer walk very far unaided. Since losing her mobility, she has also lost much of her independence.
The space outside Godsil’s front door is bright with carefully tended flowerpots and, whenever the weather allows, she sits outside to watch people going about their business and to feel connected with a wider community.“It’s fine in the summer because I can sit out. But on rainy days and in the winter I have to sit inside. It’s only me and the four walls, day after day.”
Godsil used to have several friends with whom she socialised when she returned from England, but many of them are now dead. Her husband died more than 30 years ago. Most of her family is in in England.
She is surrounded by neighbours, but they rarely drop in. She has one sister who visits once a week, she receives one hour of home help a week, and someone brings her to Mass on Sundays. Other than that, her days are very quiet. Or, as Godsil says, “very monotonous”. For very many years, her sister was her only social visitor every week.
It was her niece who contacted Alone, the Dublin-based charity, on Godsil’s behalf, two years ago. Since then, a volunteer has visited Godsil once a week. Apart from the company, what she welcomes most is the opportunity to get out of the home in which she spends so much time by herself. “We go for drives down the coast road, or for lunch, or shopping.”
One of Alone’s recent initiatives was to set up penpal communications between older people in Ireland and the US. Áine Duffy, communications and campaigns co-ordinator with Alone, says: “We put a piece in the Montana Senior News, profiling three people Alone work with, with their pictures. We invited people to write to them.”